The "plus size" bust dilemma
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Frequently I get asked for advice on places to shop for bras suited for full bust women. I thought that I would share some tips and a few laughs with you, since after all I can relate to this dilemma.
Full bust women know that finding a brassiere or clothing that respects their bodies, is stylish and flattering is not always the easiest thing to do. I recall my days working with large Canadian retailer when they launched their Body lingerie line in Canada. At that time, I was ecstatic to learn that a large chain actually carried brassieres up to cup D. It appeared that generic retailers simply assumed big busted women did not need to wear bras, that must have been their reasoning because they selectively decided not to supply them. Duh, huge loss of potential profits there.
Knowing what I know now, I actually think it is wise that they stay away from full bust bras, it will encourage women to seek out specialty retailers that provide exceptional service and high quality products that do not resemble Aunt Thelma’s brassieres. Yes, I actually have a few aunts (dead and alive, RIP to those that have gone away) who wore/wear brassieres with enough fabric to clothe two of me. A few of my grand aunts wear these gadgets that are shaped like pine cones to give it that added touch. Uhmm…no thanks. This is 2010, give me style and functionality please.
btw: My elder aunts do not use the internet so they will never know that I blogged about their ‘bustaciouness’. Shhhh.
As it is in my DNA (on both sides…yay me), I was made with a very tiny frame and am pretty much well endowed–so really I can relate to some of the gripes my girlfriends have. Perhaps not as much as some ladies but I truly understand. I have friends and family members who regularly raise issues about the effects that large breasts have on their health, overall body image and their level of discomfort especially when dealing with people who are otherwise socially challenged and who demonstrate this by choosing to spew out ludicrous statements from their mouths.
These statements include ones like “wow, your breast are soooo big. How do you carry those things around?” Really? Why?
In this post I will provide general tips for both the full bust woman and others who encounter these voluptous female beauties throughout their journey of life:
1. Never tell a woman with big busts that her busts are huge. She should be aware of the size of her breast and providing an absolutely inappropriate and non value added statement generally does not make her feel fabulous.
2. Do not make unsolicited sexual comments or gestures directed at her bussoms. It’s rather…inappropriate.
3. Refrain from commenting. Period. Unless you are complimenting her on how good she looks- say nothing. That’s right…nothing. Don’t gasp, gawk, OMG or any of that because you know what—it’s rude.
4. Ladies, if you have been blessed with a little more stuff on top, please get a proper bra fitting and invest in a few good bras. You’ve got to keep those babies lifted and properly supported. We all know…gravity is a sucker and without proper support in no time you will need a hoist to pick those things up from the ground, from which they now rest. Not a good look-ever.
5. Click on a few of these links to find tips on how to get the most out of your full bustline, where to shop and tips for coping with, well…a very voluptous upper body.
Plus Size Bras article
Specialty retailer list
6. Last but not least- be good to yourselves. Love the body that you are in. Your breast were given to you for a reason. Some people will objectify and sexualize them; however, you have the right to let people know when they have gone too far. In future posts, I will give you tips and tricks on how to wear those girls with pride.
Be Busty and Fabulous,